I inherited a great book this weekend: “Bird by Bird” by Anne Lamott. Maybe you’ve read her writing (which is great). In my past, when I’ve referred to inheriting things I’ve meant that someone handed something down to me, the way I inherited a collection of lace-collared floral fine-wale corduroy dresses that I wore as a young girl. Yikes. That happened when mom was trying to clear some space in the guest bedroom closet. This time I inherited a stack of great books because Uncle Bob died.
Eleven days ago things went from looking up to sudden-turn-for-the-worse, and ten days ago, Bob left his weakened body behind and, wide-eyed, went to Jesus. More on that later. Not later today, but later later. Today is just about the inherited book. Because when we were all together in Bob’s condo over the weekend, the morning after his memorial service we began to thumb through the bookshelves and CDs. It didn’t feel vulture-like, as I might have imagined, but almost tender. To find things just as he’d left them, and think, yeah, that’s Bob; the eclectic selection of music, the books on art and architecture, the orderly and organized closet, so obviously Bob.
I’ve only just begun reading the book and already Anne has kicked my tail a little, because it’s a book about writing and she’s saying that if you like writing and want to write, at some point ya gotta sit down and get to it. That’s the hard part for everyone. But Bob loved to write, and spoke of wanting to write more, of making time to write. He read my writing and spoke so encouragingly and uncle-ishly of it that his passing reminds me (among other things) that the things I keep wanting and meaning to do should be done. Like seizing the moment of inspiration before it has passed and telling the stories stockpiled in my soul, sharing the moments that strain forward in my memory. There is something about a glimpse of life’s brevity to crystallize vision, to remind us to live our days with purpose and passion. Which, i should add, my UBob did wonderfully.

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May 27, 2009 at 9:54 am
Erin Bond
“He read my writing and spoke so encouragingly and uncle-ishly of it that his passing reminds me (among other things) that the things I keep wanting and meaning to do should be done.” So good. I’ve been thinking about this lately as well. If I want to do all these things, perhaps I should just do them. And the things I want to do that I can’t afford–well, maybe there are substitutes. So, I can’t pick up and drive to California, but I can picnic on the beach just because. If I want adventure, then maybe I should just have an adventure.
I hope you do tell your stories. I am certain they will be absolutely lovely.
May 28, 2009 at 11:38 pm
lwfew
i think there is some magic in the “just because” sort of adventures…
thank you!